Heck, this article is so short I might as well insert the whole thing:
A 24-year-old man arrested Oct.11 for kidnapping, attempted rape and gross sexual imposition said the woman he was visiting had actually been giving him “mixed signals,” according to an Elyria police report.
Melvin Jackson III, of Elyria, got naked and tried to have sex with the woman at her Washington Avenue home, the report said. The woman said she invited Jackson over to watch movies, but he began to touch her inappropriately, got undressed and refused to let her leave the room. The woman was able to run to a neighbor’s home and call police.
Good self defense on her part! She escaped and called the police.
Now, go to the story in The Morning Journal of 10/15/10 to look over the readers’ comments. As of the evening of Saturday, Oct 16, they are short and to the point: that poor guy was set up or played. Like, “everyone knows” if a woman invites a guy over to “watch movies,” she’s “asking for it,” right?
For all you women reading this, who cherish your freedom of association guaranteed by our great nation’s Constitution (including the right to watch a movie with whoever you’d like without that being mistaken for a promise of sex), you are almost certainly sending “mixed signals” to someone. Yes, there are still those who assume that being alone and together means you want “it” (and they’re not always men).
So here are just a couple of red flags that you should be looking out for. While it’s not an all-inclusive list, these are 3 biggies:
- He makes snide or even outright nasty comments about women in general, or about ex-girlfriends,
- He seems to want to get intimate very quickly, and gets upset if you’re not comfortable with his timetable, and
- He ignores you when you have objections or otherwise say no to his plans.
For those of you in the Seattle area, this is covered in Session 4 of Self-Defense 101.