Women who have been sexually assaulted are at higher risk of depression, suicide attempts, and substance abuse.
"Populations Reports: Ending Violence Against Women" Populations Information Program, Center for Communication Programs. The Johns Hopkins University School of Public Health, December 1999.

"I write for those women who do not speak, for those who do not have a voice because they were so terrified, because we are taught to respect fear more than ourselves. We've been taught that silence would save us, but it won't."
— Audre Lorde

Women who have been sexually assaulted are at higher risk of overeating, anxiety disorders, and smoking.
Koss, MP, Koss, PG, Woodruff, W. "Deleterious Effects of Criminal Victimization on Women's Health and Medical Utilization." Archives of Internal Medicine, 1991

"No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow."
— Alice Walker

Sexual assault is the crime least often reported to law enforcement. Varying studies put the report rate somewhere between 15 and 30 percent.
Bureau of Justice Statistics, 2000. Criminal Victimization 1999: Changes 1998-1999 with Trends 1993-99. National Crime Victimization Survey. Washington, DC: Bureau of Justice Statistics, US Department of Justice.

"A voice is a human gift; it should be cherished and used, to utter fully human speech as possible. Powerlessness and silence go together."
— Margarte Atwood

The rate of violence and assault in the United States over the last five decades has gone down. Most of this decline is in assaults on men; assault rates on women, while also decreasing, has been going down more slowly.
Violent Crime Rates by Gender of Victim, Bureau of Justice Statistics, The National Crime Victimization Survey and Uniform Crime Reports, 9/02

"Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing."
— Helen Keller

Of surveyed college women, about 91% of rape and sexual assault victims knew their attacker prior to the assault.
Fisher, Bonnie S., Francis T. Cullen, and Michael G. Turner. "The Sexual Victimization of College Women." Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Department of Justice, 2000.

Women with a childhood history of sexual abuse are 4.7 times more likely to be subsequently raped.
Merrill, L.L., et al. "Childhood Abuse and Sexual Revictimization in a Female Navy Recruit Sample." Naval Health Research Center, 1997

"The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any."
— Alice Walker

The best predictors of a woman successfully fighting back against an assailant are first recognizing when an assault is in the making, and second trying one thing after another until she finds what works.
Bart, Pauline B. and Patricia H. O'Brien. Stopping Rape: Successful Survival Strategies. NY: Pergamon Press, 1985

"No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow."
— Alice Walker

80% of all women who only yell and run escape their attackers.
Stella Marrs

"A woman is like a tea bag – you can't tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water."
— Eleanor Roosevelt

Sexual assaults committed by strangers are far more likely to be reported to law enforcement, even though most assaults are committed by someone known to the victim.
Bureau of Justice Statistics Special Report, Reporting Crime to the Police, 1992-2000, March 2003

"Because society cannot control the cost of ... violence after the crime has been committed, the best control mechanism is through prevention."
Post, et al., The Rape Tax, J Interp Violence 17(7):773, 2002.

"Power is the ability to do good things for others."
— Brooke Astor

"The thing women have got to learn is that nobody gives you power. You just take it."
— Roseanne Barr

Young women in college are at a slightly higher risk for sexual assault than are their peers not in college.
Fisher, B., F. Cullen and M. Turner (2000). The Sexual Victimization of College Women. Washington, D.C.: U.S. Department of Justice, National Institute of Justice and Bureau of Justice Statistics

"I don't want to be a passenger in my own life."
— Diane Ackerman

Those who seek the help of sexual assault advocates are more likely to report their assault to law enforcement.
Campbell, Rebecca. Rape Survivor's Experiences with the Legal and Medical Systems: Do Rape Victim Advocates Make a Difference? (2006) Violence Against Women 12.

"Make the most of what you have, when you have it, where you are."
— Eleanor Roosevelt

"Courage is very important. Like a muscle, it is strengthened by use."
— Ruth Gordon

An estimated 92,700 men are forcibly raped each year in the United States.
Tjaden, Patricia and Thoennes, Nancy. November 1998. Prevalence, Incidence and Consequences of Violence Against Women: Findings from the National Violence Against Women Survey. Washington, DC: National Institute of Justice, Office of Justice Programs, US Department of Justice.

Donated Class Program

In October 2003, I founded Strategic Living, so I can continue to empower women through classes, speaking engagements and one-to-one consulting. Since then, Strategic Living has partly or fully subsidized classes and seminars to non-profits serving women's and community interests. Organizations that have benefitted include transitional housing for women, food bank volunteers, youth, AmeriCorps programs and women out of abusive relationships.

Teen girl learns to protect herself in Strategic Living self defense class, Seattle WA

The two ways I donate are through silent auctions and applications for a partly or fully subsidized training.

If your organization is holding a silent auction and would like a gift certificate for a personal safety seminar, please contact me.

If your organization is a non-profit and your employees, members, or clients would benefit from personal safety or violence prevention training please email me with your intent to apply. I will then send directions on where to send the answers to these questions:

Backgound and Present Situation: Why would your employees/members/clients benefit from this training?
What Are You Looking For: Are you requesting an interactive lecture or a hands-on seminar? More physical or more awareness and verbal skills? Why?
Future Changes: What outcomes are you expecting as a result of this training?
Students Buy-In: How will you ensure that your employees/members/clients attend?
Demonstrate Financial Need: Why are you requesting a class be subsidized?

There are a limited number of donated slots available. Selection will be determined in part by judgment of fit between the aims of the organization, strengths of the trainer, and commitments already made.