BONUS VIDEO! Unless specifically asked about in class, I generally don’t cover hairpulls. Yet it can happen. And, if it does, what you can do about it and why. If you cannot get it to play on this page, you can watch it on YouTube.
Two other topics we did not get to are multiple attackers and facing weapons. Each is covered in Self-Defense 102: Beyond the Basics. In the meantime, here is the short version.
Multiple Attackers: You can only fight one person at a time. When faced with two or more, positioning is critical. Do do not want to find youself between two (or more) attackers if you can at all help it. So you need to move, and fast. Position yourself so that Attacker 1is between you and Attacker 2. Use your 3+ combo to disable Attacker 1 ASAP. Then there’s a good chance Attacker 2 will run. If not, then you’ll have to deal with him too. Sometimes you can actively use Attacker 1 (disabled) as a shield between you and Attacker 2.
Facing Weapons: This is scary, and mostly because the person holding the weapon is not an “expert,” and in fact is likely to be very unskilled in using weapons. The major reason a weapon is shown is for intimidation. (If the intent is murder, you will likely be killed very quickly, and may never even see the person or weapon.)
The critical point here is to breathe and try very hard to not make sudden moves. The weapon holder is quite possibly nervous, and you don’t want him to accidentally use it. Ask what he wants, tell him I’ll give you what you want but please don’t hurt me. Go along with him — pretend compliance until his attention waivers and you have a chance to escape. This is a good time to use de-escalation verbal skills. (De-escalation is also covered in Self-Defense 102: Beyond the Basics.)
The main types of weapons are the 3 Bs: bullets, blades, and blunts.
- Guns are the most commonly seen weapon. They are distance weapons, but takes some skill to actually hit the target. Once fired a bullet keeps going in a straight line. It is very challenging to run and shoot at the same time. If you are running from a gun, run in an erratic zigzag and use any and all cover and barriers.
- Blades include knives, broken bottles, screwdrivers, and anything else that can cut or stab. This is a close weapon, so the attacker needs to be right there in your space. However, most people can dash 20 feet in less than 2 seconds, so even that distance is not safe from a knife-wielding attacker.
- Clubs, batons, and baseball bats can be swung hard and fast. These can most readily cause some of the most severe damage, since the impact area is relatively broad. One good blow to the head can change your life forever.
Despite the more scary parts of facing weapons, most of the time a shown weapons is NOT USED.
For a more positive note, take a look at this story about my colleague Helen Yee and her recent run-in with a gun. And how she won.
We did not discuss human trafficking, yet it is a real issue. Human trafficking is the contemporary label for slavery. It is not just an issue in third-world nations, it is an issue in our backyards. Take a look at this article from the Seattle Times about how one young woman almost fell prey to sex traffickers.
Way back in the first week we noted that often people believe the rate of violence is higher than it really is — in fact has been decreasing — because of constant media reports. There’s been some research on the effects of media, particularly television, on viewers’ attitudes towards real-world violence. Artist John Boak calls this the “Mean World” effect, and has created some posters for you to plaster on your TV screen. Here are my two favorites.
Sometimes domestic violence can be masked in humor or minimized. This article by Paul Kivel (click to download the PDF) is one of my favorites linking DV to other forms of oppression and social justice. By reading this you will gain a better understanding of why abusers can get away with so much, with so few consequences.
On a lighter note, this cartoon illustrates how an abuser might minimize what he does (click image for PDF).
Another mostly untouched topic is psychopaths/sociopaths. Like Ted Bundy and Gary Ridgeway (Green River Killer). These videos are by neuroscientist Dr. James Fallon (not to be confused with late-night talk show host Jimmy Fallon). He’s researched brain scans and psychopathic killers, and then found some interesting skeletons in his own family closet.